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Are You Ready To Make It Happen?

Yes, you finally made it to my site!  I’m so glad you are here.  So, you want to know what Legendary Lifestyle Academy is about, right?  The academy provides support to women who feel stranded on the opposite side of success by bridging the gap between where she is now to where she wants to be in life.  Many of our tribe of ‘Legendary Ladies’ have experienced transition from wife to widow or suddenly single, addicted to healthy, employed to unemployed or working a 9 to 5 to entrepreneur.

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If you are struggling with any of these difficult shifts in life, you are in the right place.  So please, grab a cup of coffee or tea and take a short 15-minutes to listen to this life altering message I created just for you about why I do this…Let’s talk soon!

~Kish

Uncovering the lessons following a life transition

Your heart drops, you feel a little faint and the world seems to pause for a moment as you try to catch your breath.
A life crisis has just shaken your life.womenunderstree_7.20.17
Death, divorce, unemployment, a negative medical diagnosis are some of the life experiences that change your life in an instant. The change can leave you feeling overwhelmed and confused.
A former client explained her transformative life moment. “One evening as I was leaving the office to go home, I got the call that my mother had just passed away after a long illness,” She tearfully recalled, “I wondered, what will Dad do? How will he make it? What about the rest of the family?” She went on to explain a similar feeling of overwhelm just nine months later when I got an early morning call from her sister saying that her Dad had passed earlier that morning.
After a major crisis erupts in life many emotions may spontaneously show up such as confusion, loneliness, sadness and even anger ~ it’s okay to just feel what you feel (however, if thoughts of harming yourself or others occur, please do seek immediate medical attention).
During this time you may want to take time away from any activities that call for complicated decision making or critical detailed thinking since this may or may not be possible.

 

Note of Encouragement: Your journey towards recovering from a life crisis is made up of many small steps put together. All you have to do is decide to start with that first step. Just decide and do it!

 

Let ‘If Only’ Go…
After an unexpected life change you may have thoughts of guilt, regret or anger. It’s natural to think, ‘if only’ or maybe there was ‘something I could have done differently or done more of’ to result in a different outcome.
Control Negative Self Talk
The reality of your life now is different then it was prior to the major life event. During this transformative time, negative self-talk could become your norm, but doesn’t benefit your progress toward moving forward. Because you have struggled doesn’t mean you have failed even though a negative voice inside might try to tell you otherwise. Be conscious of your self talk.

 

Note of encouragement: Let your future, prove your past wrong. Don’t spend time wondering ‘what if,’ as you journey forward think of what can be.

 

Your Next Steps
So what is your next move? There is no simple or easy answer on how you actually take your first steps out of the initial shock of a major unexpected life transition. You can only begin where you are ~ that could mean small steps.
A small effort like getting out of bed no matter how much you want to stay under the covers could be a small step. But if this is your current reality, get up and be proud of yourself!
Being around supportive friends and family who will not be critical or push you to go beyond what is comfortable for you is important to getting through this transitional phase of life. Staying active can keep help you avoid negative thoughts or extended periods of self-pity. Also when we accept a new situation, we make a huge step forward. Sometimes the biggest stress comes when we try to fight the change and try to stay where were are or in the past.  This is especially difficult when you have no choice but to accept your new situation.
Have you found yourself in the middle of a life transition? Are you seeking support and/or information on successfully getting from where you are now in to where you eventually want to be?

If this sounds like you, email me at kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com also visit me at www.legendarylifestyleacademy.com

 

…is this the right thing for me?

…when it comes to making a life decision it can be paralyzing. But one question we can start with is, “Am I Being Honest With Myself, Really?” When we arrive at what we think is the answer, sometimes it’s really just the ‘easy’ answer or solution. However, if we feel tension and or feel the need to “present our case” for something to convince ourselves or others that it’s ‘the answer’, maybe it truly is not the right decision.

There is liberation and empowerment in REALLY getting to the truth of why we make the decisions we do- even if we don’t act on the truth, but hopefully we do.

Are you in the process of making a decision? Are you making honest choices for your life that will result in you really being happy and healthy?

Better decisions, result in fewer regrets.

If you need information or support regarding planning out a major life decision, contact us at kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com

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A Change is gonna come…

Is your current life situation in transition?  Transition or change, happens in life and we can adjust to it or avoid it.  It’s hard to find peace in the fighting the natural cycles we experience in life. Maybe what is occurring now in your life is forcing you to re-route your plans and or goals.  Often times we can feel anxious, stressed or just plain depressed when in the midst of a life change, especially one we didn’t see coming.

Here are a three ways to help move through a transition:

  1. Accept it – sometimes the biggest stress comes when we try to fight the change and try to stay where were are or in the past.  This is especially difficult when you have no choice but to accept your new situation such as in the case of losing a loved one.
  2. Give yourself time – change can take a little time to adjust to and there is no need to allow anyone, including yourself, to rush you in acceptance of this new experience and place in life.conversation
  3. Find support – some transitions can be overwhelming if you attempt to handle it in isolation. Let a close friend or family member in on what is happening.  Sometimes finding an emotionally safe place to rest makes a big difference in how you cope with it.

If you are in transition and want to get more information on successfully getting from where you are now in your transformative life phase to where you eventually want to be, contact kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com

 

Confused?

Confused? This post is not an enlightened research piece on how to figure out your life or even an instructional piece on how to be confident about making major or minor life decisions like soup or salad at Panera Bread today for lunch.

But I am going to share what I’ve learned about confusion. And one major lesson I learned is that it’s okay to feel this way.

The simple reality is that there is nothing that has to be ‘figured out’ when we experience this…still confused about being confused? Well, to put it simply, we can only start to become un-confused when we allow ourselves to start where we and begin making moves toward clarity.

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…start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.

Taking steps little, by little with the resources and experience we have at the moment in order to move toward a solution may seem like a really overly simplified piece of advice, but what clear options DO we have when we don’t know what to do?

Once we make the commitment to go as far as we can, once we get there don’t we typically see even further ahead? Although it’s a little scary to embrace this way of arriving at the answers we seek, it will ultimately allow us to open up to greater potential to unfold ahead.

If you want to know about this subject, feel free to email me @ kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com

The Fear Factor

The Commander sternly said to the beaten and battered war prisoner, “I will give you two choices. One is to face the firing squad or two, you can walk out that door where there are unknown terrible fates that likely await you.’ The prisoner, weary from all he had been through said, “I will face the firing squad.” After the prisoner’s body was carried out, the Commander’s guard asked, “Sir what is outside that door?” The Commander replied matter of factly, “Freedom.”

Is fear of the unknown holding you back from the ‘freedom’ you desire?

Fear can be an overwhelming obstacle preventing us from living the life we want. It can cause us to be unclear and distorted in what is truly possible for us.  And most often times it is an unrealistic fear that keeps us from growing as a person resulting in us undervaluing our worthiness for success and serve doubt in our god-given abilities and talents.

Here are the top three ways, I’ve found to help clear the fear:

Put it all in perspective: Life really will go on if you go after the promotion and don’t get it! Look at the big picture and realistically look at our experiences. Ask yourself, what is the worst that can happen? Usually it is not as bad as you feared it to be.
Learn to trust yourself: nobody knows you better than YOU!
Stop sabotaging behavior like negative self talk
…remember you are capable and all that is possible for you is just one faith-filled step away!

Show More Love

In the wake of the horrific events of Orlando, many conversations in the grocery store line, the break room and social media include questions like, ‘What if that were my family?’ ‘What would I do in a situation like that?”

Unfortunately, we are living in frightening world that is lacking love and kindness.

However, many are also asking the question, ‘How can I share more love in my world?’

Here are 5 easy ways to be kind in a harsh world:Hugs

  1. Smile.  Even at someone we don’t know.  Sometimes a simple smile can make someone’s day.
  2. Write a handwritten letter on stationary to a relative or friend you’ve lost touch with and send it in the mail.
  3. Spend time with a child.  Not only will this make the little one happy, but it’ll do your heart good too to laugh over a heated game of Old Maid, UNO or Candy Land!
  4. Buy the coffee for the person behind you at the coffee shop.
  5. Check in on an elderly neighbor and ask if you can help with a task around the yard or their home.

Don’t forget to be kind to your family and yourself.  Sure, go ahead and buy that new lipstick and dance around your bathroom to Justin Bieber…we won’t judge as long as it makes you happy!

Remember…you are capable and all that is possible for you is one faith-filled step away.

Where are you?

 

…so, we’re almost at the half-way point in 2016 and I know where did the time go?!

Many of us started the new year eager to make changes in our life.  Perhaps your big change was to release weight with a new diet and fitness regime, maybe it was to get out of debt or start a business.  Are you on track?  Have you fallen short? Or possibly you have jumped in with both feet and taken off with your goals and are rocking out your plans as you had hoped – if so, here’s a fist bump to you girlfriend!

But, if you’ve run out of steam on the way to your dream it’s never too late to begin again.

Here are three quick tips to not jump ship when it comes to your plans:

  1. Don’t compare yourself to others.  Some of your friends may have be having a great 2016. But don’t let yourself get sidetracked by others success, let it be a motivator.  Do what you can do.

  2. Be consistent. Consistently make it a habit to do one thing daily, whether it be large or small, to draw you closer to your goals.  It could be as simple as skipping the bowl of ice cream and walking around the block after dinner or instead of watching television before bed read a chapter from the book about starting your own business that has sat on your night stand for months.

3. Get an accountability partner.  Yes, you have to tell somebody you trust about what you want to accomplish and encourage them to hold you accountable for it.  It could be a friend, your spouse, a group of like-minded legendary ladies (wink*)…just be ready to share and maybe even take some constructive criticism to help you succeed.

…you are capable and all that is possible for you is just one faith-filled step away.

Life Take An Unexpected Turn? 5 Ways To Bounce Back!

Are you at a place in life that you didn’t think you’d be?  Maybe you were happily married for years and suddenly find yourself single.  Maybe you worked for the same company for a long time and recently discovered your position is being eliminated?  Or possibly you have always been healthy, but shockingly diagnosed with a life-altering illness.

Life can pull the rug from under our goals, dreams and expectations in the blink of an eye.  Change unexpectedly can be scary; it may feel like we have no control and cause frustration, anger or depression.

However, here are five ways to cope:

  1. Accept the change that is happening.  The sooner we acknowledge that life has changed, the sooner we can begin to adjust.
  2. Decide your next move.  So this happened what can I do next and what will be my attitude toward moving forward?  These are very critical questions to ask yourself.
  3. Let go of ‘if only I had done things differently’ thinking. It is not productive to get stuck in this self- destructive thinking.
  4. Find support through your friends, relatives and/or spiritual family.
  5. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to transition into a new way of life.

 

 

Waiting for perfection…and waiting and waiting and waiting…

What is it about our society that causes many of us to strive for perfection?  In magazines, we see models with perfect bodies…on television we see perfect families living in perfect homes…on social media we see cute couples posing in selfies to document perfect relationships.  But what we don’t see is the air bushing of the model’s thighs for the magazine ad, the behind the scenes arguments within that perfect family and the problems that cutesy couple on Facebook really experience.

Are you letting the need for perfectionism actually PREVENT you from success?  How could that be you ask?

Ironically, people who lean toward perfectionism sabotageimages his or  her chance for success.   For example, most tend to  be procrastinators; waiting for the right circumstances to best increase his or her chances for accomplishing some task successfully.  Here’s where that irony comes in again…that ideal or  perfect time or space may NEVER occur so he or she automatically fails!  One of the key traits of successful people is not being risk-adverse.

Here are a few trait perfectionists often posses and how they can be adjusted for better results:

  • Highly critical of others: a perfectionist point out the flaws in others largely because they can’t accept in others what they can’t accept in themselves.  However, if a less judgmental attitude where taken by a perfectionist, it would be easier to be less critical of his or herself.
  • Takes everything personally: a  perfectionist takes failure personally; they tend to not be as resilient to a setback and can allow it to beat them down mentally.
  • Tends to get upset about insignificant mistakes: if spilling a latte at the coffee shop causes an emotional meltdown or seeing a typo in an email after hitting send puts you in crises mode, you just might be a perfectionist. If less focus is placed on failure and more focus is placed on the big picture or the end result, the small mistakes won’t seem so big.

So what are you waiting for? Now is the PERFECT time to succeed even if there are some failures along the way.

 

 

 

 

Change

transition…well, they are called  growing pains for a reason.  Yes, change and growth sometimes     hurt and it’s  why we are so resistant to it.  But the ironic thing about change is we fear it just as much as we desire it ( for example take note of the ‘changes’  we desire on January 1st every year)!

However, change is inevitable and if we fight against it,  we can sabotage any chance to achieve success and abundance in life.  Sound a little dramatic?  Well, change certainly can be dramatic and is a significant part of life.   Regardless of if we are a willing participant or not, change is gonna come!

Here are 3 ways to help embrace change:

  1. Acknowledge the  fear and challenge it. If  we admit we are  fearful, it’s  not so bad because we  know it’s there.   We can even use it that fearful energy flowing through us to challenge ourselves to  stretch even further. If you find yourself a fearful divorced woman at  age 50,  now  could be the best time to  sell the house and buy that loft in the city you dreamed of living in ‘one day.’
  2. Be open to possibility.  Don’t get attached to any certain outcome as a result of  change.  Often times the most memorable events in life are the ones we didn’t expect or plan.
  3. Take it easy on yourself.  Sometimes when massive change in life occurs ( such as the loss of a job, relationship or spouse), we can feel as if life is sweeping us up in a whirlwind.  To help absorb the ‘shock’ it is a good idea to take it easy on you.  Get plenty of rest, eat good meals and if cash allows, have someone clean your apartment or home so you can spend  time to regroup.

Change has it’s  benefits especially when you discover new insight on yourself and your perspective on the world around you.