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Are You Ready To Make It Happen?

Yes, you finally made it to my site!  I’m so glad you are here.  So, you want to know what Legendary Lifestyle Academy is about, right?  The academy provides support to women who feel stranded on the opposite side of success by bridging the gap between where she is now to where she wants to be in life.  Many of our tribe of ‘Legendary Ladies’ have experienced transition from wife to widow or suddenly single, addicted to healthy, employed to unemployed or working a 9 to 5 to entrepreneur.


If you are struggling with any of these difficult shifts in life, you are in the right place.  So please, grab a cup of coffee or tea and take a short 15-minutes to listen to this life altering message I created just for you about why I do this…Let’s talk soon!


Are Current World Events Stressing You Out?

How are the stressful, frightening events popping up on our social media feeds and replaying continuously in the television news affecting you? Are you having trouble sleeping? Do you feel anxious and fearful much of the time? Maybe you are feeling tempted by an addictive behavior that has been under control for a long time? If this sounds like you, you are not alone. People around the world are feeling the stress of these difficult times and it is showing itself in unexpected ways.

You may have had a lot of stress to deal with in your life even before events like Charlottesville. You may have already been coping with grief, illness, addictions or financial issues. You may have been just managing to get by –keeping yourself well and helping others as needed. And now this! You may feel totally overwhelmed. Again, you are not alone. Most people share your feelings.

Here are a few things we can do to manage the feelings of stress:

  • Connect with friends and talk it out.  Sometimes knowing that people who care about you are willing to just listen to your fears is therapeutic.
  • Get active.  Go for a walk with the dog or visit the local gym for a quick workout. Getting the healthy endorphins moving through your body does wonders for your state of mind.
  • Don’t reach for the junk food and stay glued to news networks.  Filling our body with empty calories and flooding our minds with stressful news images will cause our stress levels to increase.  Turn off the television and grab a book or call a family member.  Get plenty
  • Take the focus off your
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…feel like areas of your life are stressful or unmanageable? Let’s connect.  I’d like to share some resources with you to help you get you from where you are now, to where you’d like to be!

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Confident Woman

When I go shopping for new clothes, I engage in one of my regular dressing room customs. I fold over my arm as many items as I physically can carry around the store and/or the maximum number of items allowed per the store dressing room policy just so I don’t have to hobble out in a too tight dress to ask for a new size. I typically find fault with every item because they, ‘don’t look anything like they do on the mannequins on me in this horrible three way mirror!’ Although, I would say I’m a confident woman, I admit I’m also somewhat preoccupied with minor, and often imaginary, flaws in physical features. I’ve had the ‘I would like to get the pudgy part under my chin,’ talk with my husband many times and he insists I will ruin an already beautiful face in his opinion.

So plenty of us have the same self-doubts, whether regarding our physical appearance, our abilities at work, our success as a wife or mother etc. even though these doubts may be completely false, for some reason the bad stuff is easier to believe.

But a University of California neuropsychiatrist believes there is a part of a woman’s brain that causes this kind of self-critical thinking. “It turns out there’s an area of your brain that’s assigned the task of negative thinking,” says Louann Brizendine, MD, author of The Female Brain. “It’s judgmental. It says ‘I’m too fat’ or ‘I’m too old. The worrywart part of the brain is the anterior cingulate cortex.

downloadIn women, this part of the brain is actually larger and more influential, as is the brain circuitry for observing emotions in others. “The reason we think females have more emotional sensitivity,” says Brizendine, “is that we’ve been built to be immediately responsive to the needs of a nonverbal infant. That can be both a good thing and a bad thing.”

These findings confirm the realness of the struggles we ladies deal with when it comes to confidence.
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Thinking about quitting? Remember why you started.

We all feel this way from time to time.  That feeling of being stuck, that feeling of doubt, that feeling of what am I really doing?!

Sure we can pump ourselves up with motivational sayings like “quitters never win” and “failure is not an option,” but really? When we’re overwhelmed by serious demands and out of time, money, and energy that happy self talk doesn’t always cut it.

Here are three easy ways to get back in the game:Winning

  1. Stop doubting yourself – if you were not capable of reaching the thing you’re going after you would have never had the idea to go after it in the first place.
  2. Try a different route – you know how the GPS in your car will re-calculate when you  take a wrong turn?  We can do the same thing by re-calculating our plan.  There are several ways to get to the same place, right?
  3. Don’t be an island- you don’t have to do it alone.  Invest in that goal by getting a mentor or business or personal development coach, someone who doesn’t know you, but knows your situation and feels your pain AND can guide you to practical solutions. Find someone who can accelerate you toward what you want.

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Uncovering the lessons following a life transition

Your heart drops, you feel a little faint and the world seems to pause for a moment as you try to catch your breath.
A life crisis has just shaken your life.womenunderstree_7.20.17
Death, divorce, unemployment, a negative medical diagnosis are some of the life experiences that change your life in an instant. The change can leave you feeling overwhelmed and confused.
A former client explained her transformative life moment. “One evening as I was leaving the office to go home, I got the call that my mother had just passed away after a long illness,” She tearfully recalled, “I wondered, what will Dad do? How will he make it? What about the rest of the family?” She went on to explain a similar feeling of overwhelm just nine months later when I got an early morning call from her sister saying that her Dad had passed earlier that morning.
After a major crisis erupts in life many emotions may spontaneously show up such as confusion, loneliness, sadness and even anger ~ it’s okay to just feel what you feel (however, if thoughts of harming yourself or others occur, please do seek immediate medical attention).
During this time you may want to take time away from any activities that call for complicated decision making or critical detailed thinking since this may or may not be possible.


Note of Encouragement: Your journey towards recovering from a life crisis is made up of many small steps put together. All you have to do is decide to start with that first step. Just decide and do it!


Let ‘If Only’ Go…
After an unexpected life change you may have thoughts of guilt, regret or anger. It’s natural to think, ‘if only’ or maybe there was ‘something I could have done differently or done more of’ to result in a different outcome.
Control Negative Self Talk
The reality of your life now is different then it was prior to the major life event. During this transformative time, negative self-talk could become your norm, but doesn’t benefit your progress toward moving forward. Because you have struggled doesn’t mean you have failed even though a negative voice inside might try to tell you otherwise. Be conscious of your self talk.


Note of encouragement: Let your future, prove your past wrong. Don’t spend time wondering ‘what if,’ as you journey forward think of what can be.


Your Next Steps
So what is your next move? There is no simple or easy answer on how you actually take your first steps out of the initial shock of a major unexpected life transition. You can only begin where you are ~ that could mean small steps.
A small effort like getting out of bed no matter how much you want to stay under the covers could be a small step. But if this is your current reality, get up and be proud of yourself!
Being around supportive friends and family who will not be critical or push you to go beyond what is comfortable for you is important to getting through this transitional phase of life. Staying active can keep help you avoid negative thoughts or extended periods of self-pity. Also when we accept a new situation, we make a huge step forward. Sometimes the biggest stress comes when we try to fight the change and try to stay where were are or in the past.  This is especially difficult when you have no choice but to accept your new situation.
Have you found yourself in the middle of a life transition? Are you seeking support and/or information on successfully getting from where you are now in to where you eventually want to be?

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…is this the right thing for me?

…when it comes to making a life decision it can be paralyzing. But one question we can start with is, “Am I Being Honest With Myself, Really?” When we arrive at what we think is the answer, sometimes it’s really just the ‘easy’ answer or solution. However, if we feel tension and or feel the need to “present our case” for something to convince ourselves or others that it’s ‘the answer’, maybe it truly is not the right decision.

There is liberation and empowerment in REALLY getting to the truth of why we make the decisions we do- even if we don’t act on the truth, but hopefully we do.

Are you in the process of making a decision? Are you making honest choices for your life that will result in you really being happy and healthy?

Better decisions, result in fewer regrets.

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A Change is gonna come…

Is your current life situation in transition?  Transition or change, happens in life and we can adjust to it or avoid it.  It’s hard to find peace in the fighting the natural cycles we experience in life. Maybe what is occurring now in your life is forcing you to re-route your plans and or goals.  Often times we can feel anxious, stressed or just plain depressed when in the midst of a life change, especially one we didn’t see coming.

Here are a three ways to help move through a transition:

  1. Accept it – sometimes the biggest stress comes when we try to fight the change and try to stay where were are or in the past.  This is especially difficult when you have no choice but to accept your new situation such as in the case of losing a loved one.
  2. Give yourself time – change can take a little time to adjust to and there is no need to allow anyone, including yourself, to rush you in acceptance of this new experience and place in life.conversation
  3. Find support – some transitions can be overwhelming if you attempt to handle it in isolation. Let a close friend or family member in on what is happening.  Sometimes finding an emotionally safe place to rest makes a big difference in how you cope with it.

If you are in transition and want to get more information on successfully getting from where you are now in your transformative life phase to where you eventually want to be, contact



Confused? This post is not an enlightened research piece on how to figure out your life or even an instructional piece on how to be confident about making major or minor life decisions like soup or salad at Panera Bread today for lunch.

But I am going to share what I’ve learned about confusion. And one major lesson I learned is that it’s okay to feel this way.

The simple reality is that there is nothing that has to be ‘figured out’ when we experience this…still confused about being confused? Well, to put it simply, we can only start to become un-confused when we allow ourselves to start where we and begin making moves toward clarity.


…start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.

Taking steps little, by little with the resources and experience we have at the moment in order to move toward a solution may seem like a really overly simplified piece of advice, but what clear options DO we have when we don’t know what to do?

Once we make the commitment to go as far as we can, once we get there don’t we typically see even further ahead? Although it’s a little scary to embrace this way of arriving at the answers we seek, it will ultimately allow us to open up to greater potential to unfold ahead.

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The Fear Factor

The Commander sternly said to the beaten and battered war prisoner, “I will give you two choices. One is to face the firing squad or two, you can walk out that door where there are unknown terrible fates that likely await you.’ The prisoner, weary from all he had been through said, “I will face the firing squad.” After the prisoner’s body was carried out, the Commander’s guard asked, “Sir what is outside that door?” The Commander replied matter of factly, “Freedom.”

Is fear of the unknown holding you back from the ‘freedom’ you desire?

Fear can be an overwhelming obstacle preventing us from living the life we want. It can cause us to be unclear and distorted in what is truly possible for us.  And most often times it is an unrealistic fear that keeps us from growing as a person resulting in us undervaluing our worthiness for success and serve doubt in our god-given abilities and talents.

Here are the top three ways, I’ve found to help clear the fear:

Put it all in perspective: Life really will go on if you go after the promotion and don’t get it! Look at the big picture and realistically look at our experiences. Ask yourself, what is the worst that can happen? Usually it is not as bad as you feared it to be.
Learn to trust yourself: nobody knows you better than YOU!
Stop sabotaging behavior like negative self talk
…remember you are capable and all that is possible for you is just one faith-filled step away!

Show More Love

In the wake of the horrific events of Orlando, many conversations in the grocery store line, the break room and social media include questions like, ‘What if that were my family?’ ‘What would I do in a situation like that?”

Unfortunately, we are living in frightening world that is lacking love and kindness.

However, many are also asking the question, ‘How can I share more love in my world?’

Here are 5 easy ways to be kind in a harsh world:Hugs

  1. Smile.  Even at someone we don’t know.  Sometimes a simple smile can make someone’s day.
  2. Write a handwritten letter on stationary to a relative or friend you’ve lost touch with and send it in the mail.
  3. Spend time with a child.  Not only will this make the little one happy, but it’ll do your heart good too to laugh over a heated game of Old Maid, UNO or Candy Land!
  4. Buy the coffee for the person behind you at the coffee shop.
  5. Check in on an elderly neighbor and ask if you can help with a task around the yard or their home.

Don’t forget to be kind to your family and yourself.  Sure, go ahead and buy that new lipstick and dance around your bathroom to Justin Bieber…we won’t judge as long as it makes you happy!

Remember…you are capable and all that is possible for you is one faith-filled step away.

Where are you?


…so, we’re almost at the half-way point in 2016 and I know where did the time go?!

Many of us started the new year eager to make changes in our life.  Perhaps your big change was to release weight with a new diet and fitness regime, maybe it was to get out of debt or start a business.  Are you on track?  Have you fallen short? Or possibly you have jumped in with both feet and taken off with your goals and are rocking out your plans as you had hoped – if so, here’s a fist bump to you girlfriend!

But, if you’ve run out of steam on the way to your dream it’s never too late to begin again.

Here are three quick tips to not jump ship when it comes to your plans:

  1. Don’t compare yourself to others.  Some of your friends may have be having a great 2016. But don’t let yourself get sidetracked by others success, let it be a motivator.  Do what you can do.

  2. Be consistent. Consistently make it a habit to do one thing daily, whether it be large or small, to draw you closer to your goals.  It could be as simple as skipping the bowl of ice cream and walking around the block after dinner or instead of watching television before bed read a chapter from the book about starting your own business that has sat on your night stand for months.

3. Get an accountability partner.  Yes, you have to tell somebody you trust about what you want to accomplish and encourage them to hold you accountable for it.  It could be a friend, your spouse, a group of like-minded legendary ladies (wink*)…just be ready to share and maybe even take some constructive criticism to help you succeed.

…you are capable and all that is possible for you is just one faith-filled step away.