Are you a know it all?

“I knooow,” was my favorite phrase as a teenager.  Often times, the phrase had to be said with eyes rolled for emphasis.  Specifically, when a parent would remind me of something that I needed to listen to for my own benefit, those words came out of my mouth automatically. Now that my parents are gone and I’m older, I know that I don’t always know it all.

I learned many valuable lessons from my loving parents who spoke from the wisdom of experience.  One important lesson experience has taught me is that it makes sense to not only listen to advice given to me for my benefit, but to also respond on the information by acting on it. Let’s think about this: in the morning you get out of bed, look in the mirror and the wise response to that startling reflection is to make yourself presentable enough to go to school or work.  Or when your stomach growls the wise response would be to eat food. So why is it when we’re given access to wise and beneficial information and resources when facing a challenge in life we don’t respond wisely by acting on it?

Here are three ways to help us when we are hesitant about responding to a problem:

  1. Been there, done that. Talk to someone who has been in a similar situation and ask what they did. Listening to someonesmartwoman.jpg who has gone through the thing you face is invaluable–even if what they choose as a solution resulted in failure for him or her, ask them what they learned from that too.
  2. Do it NOW. Sometimes procrastination will cause us to talk ourselves out of the right way to go.
  3. Commit to your decision. Don’t waiver in what you choose to do.  If you have listened to your instinct and compared it to the information you have gotten from others, decide on your answer and stick with it!

Do you feel stranded on the opposite side of success and need help mapping out your next moves toward what you REALLY want in life?  You can so, let’s connect, click here to talk: http://legendarylifestyleacademy.com/complimentary-discovery-session/

Tis The Season – for annoyance!

The calendar says we are near the holiday season.   Retailers have begun displaying festive decorations and promoting sales for holiday gift giving.  But this can be the opposite of ‘the most wonderful time of the year,’ for many of us since we have to look forward to dealing with people who are negative and just rub us the wrong way. This group of people can be described at the ‘sandpaper people’ who are abrasive and rough in their treatment of you and others.

Most of us will experience these ‘rough’ people specifically throughout the season.  They can include our stressed-out sales manager who is freaking out about making end of year sales, or the overworked check out lady at the grocery store, your never-have- anything –positive- to -say Aunt or my favorite: the mall shoppers who like to re-create scenes from the popular car chase movie, The Fast and The Furious, in their mini-vans as they compete for parking spaces near the entrance.  Tis the season, right?

Here are a few tips making sure you stay sane despite the holiday craziness:

  1. Don’t take the negative as a personal images (4)attack—it’s usually not about you, but them! Stressed out and overworked people sometimes will lash out because they have not learned to manage their emotions and it builds up to become an explosion.  That’s their issue so don’t carry that responsibility as your own.

 

  1. Be realistic with your time. The holidays can bring added pressure to add more to your schedule like holiday gatherings, visits to family and friends, church activities etc.  To prevent yourself from burn out, learn to prioritize your time and avoid cramming too many places to be and things to do in your day.  Remember NO, is a complete sentence.  You don’t have to explain.

 

  1. Don’t over indulge in holiday food. I know it’s easier said than done when you are tempted with fresh baked cookies, pies and special holiday beverages served at every party.  But over eating can not only add extra pounds but cause us to feel sluggish and negative about our self-image – especially when New Year’s Eve arrives and you cannot put your size 12 leg into that size 8 pair of pants you planned to wear to dinner.

If you are struggling with overwhelming holiday emotions, let’s connect.  Email me direct kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com or click here: https://lnkd.in/ewUiZsr

 

Address The Mess

We’ve all done it–ignored a small issue until it became a major problem.  It could have been a relational, professional or financial mess and because ‘the mess wasn’t addressed’ at the onset it caused unnecessary stress. Here are three easy ways to ‘address the mess:’

1. Don’t sweep the problem under the rug and believe that you can ‘get to that later,’ if you see smoke now be prepared for the fire burning around the corner!

2. If you feel overwhelmed by the problem, get help.  Confide in a friend, colleague or if needed a professional who has experience with your particular situation.

stressed-woman-320x213.jpg3. Once you have the issue under control, look at what led to the problem to understand what lead up to the mess.  And be satisfied in knowing the experience was a powerful lesson in gaining wisdom in this area of your life or career.

Want free resources or specific support to help you transition through a life mess?  Private message me or email at kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com

Are Current World Events Stressing You Out?

How are the stressful, frightening events popping up on our social media feeds and replaying continuously in the television news affecting you? Are you having trouble sleeping? Do you feel anxious and fearful much of the time? Maybe you are feeling tempted by an addictive behavior that has been under control for a long time? If this sounds like you, you are not alone. People around the world are feeling the stress of these difficult times and it is showing itself in unexpected ways.

You may have had a lot of stress to deal with in your life even before events like Charlottesville. You may have already been coping with grief, illness, addictions or financial issues. You may have been just managing to get by –keeping yourself well and helping others as needed. And now this! You may feel totally overwhelmed. Again, you are not alone. Most people share your feelings.

Here are a few things we can do to manage the feelings of stress:

  • Connect with friends and talk it out.  Sometimes knowing that people who care about you are willing to just listen to your fears is therapeutic.
  • Get active.  Go for a walk with the dog or visit the local gym for a quick workout. Getting the healthy endorphins moving through your body does wonders for your state of mind.
  • Don’t reach for the junk food and stay glued to news networks.  Filling our body with empty calories and flooding our minds with stressful news images will cause our stress levels to increase.  Turn off the television and grab a book or call a family member.  Get plenty
  • Take the focus off your
  • images (4) feelings of stress by helping make a difference in the world. E-mail or call government officials to let them know how you feel about the actions they are taking. Join activist groups that share your views on world events. Assist an organization that is working on relief efforts. Help someone in your community who is having a hard time.

…feel like areas of your life are stressful or unmanageable? Let’s connect.  I’d like to share some resources with you to help you get you from where you are now, to where you’d like to be!

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