Well, that just happened…

Your coffee spills down the front of your favorite sweater on the drive to meet your client.  As you approach the exit, you realize that stain will never come out AND you’ve gone the wrong way! You fumble around in your bag for your cellphone to apologize to your waiting client when it starts to ring.  It’s your sister who desperately needs you to watch her twins this evening.  Frazzled, you agree and press END CALL, only to see you’ve made another wrong turn.  Uggg!  Although, you left early for the appointment, you are nearly 20 minutes late. You notice a text arrived from your client saying she could no longer wait and would prefer to do business elsewhere. Ouch. Your heart sinks. Have you had one of those days when nothing seems to go right on top of ruining a perfectly cute sweater?!

Sometimes these setbacks can be a major confidence-killer. However, wasting time beating yourself up by replaying the drama in your mind is not productive. By doing so you create a false view of who you really are and your true ability.

Here are three quick ‘pick-me-uppers’ to move on successfully with your day:

  1. Take a deep breath and  accept what just happened.  Doctors have proven that deep breathing releases tension and  clears the mind.  Yes, those folks who practice Yoga ARE really on to something!
  2. Laugh. Even though you want to cry, feel sorry for yourself or throw something. Laughing, will immediately start to change your attitude.
  3. Do something positive for someone else. Okay, so after stumbling over a few issues it may seem difficult, but taking a moment or two to positively focus on someone works…give a sincere compliment to the bank teller with a great haircut…give the broke college student in front of you at the coffee shop the 50 cents he is short to purchase his mocha…hold open the door at the library for the mom struggling to push in her double-wide stroller.

It just takes a little effort to sweep up the big mess of a setback.Bummed

…so, here you are

…we ARE where we are in life because of past choices made. Regardless of the most challenging circumstances, we DO have the power to choose. Regarding your success, make today ‘sink or swim’ day. Either you’re going to learn to be an awesome swimmer or you’ll swallow half the pool of life trying! You CAN do this!images06MEIG0P

The Importance of Being Mentored

Growing up, many of us had someone we looked up to and wanted to emulate.  Maybe it was an older brother or sister, a television character or super hero.  Do you remember the fun you had sneaking into your older sibling’s room to try on their clothes to be ‘cool’ like them, or maybe you loved putting on a mask and cape for Halloween (or any random after-school day) to transform into a super human with unlimited power.  business women

Now that we are adults, we still can tap into and further develop our unlimited power through the experience and mentorship of others.

Internationally recognized and mega successful entrepreneur, Richard Branson of Virgin said in a recent blog, “If you ask any successful businessperson, they will always have had a great mentor at some point along the road. If you want success then it takes hard work, hard work and more hard work. But it also takes a little help along the way. If you are determined and enthusiastic then people will support you.”

…sounds like good advice from someone worth 5 billion dollars according to Forbes Magazine!

Here are three easy ways to find a mentor for those of you on the way to Forbes status:

  1. Identify someone in your field of interest who is actively making a positive impact in that field.  Find out if he or she will be a speaker or attendee at an industry conference and make sure you get there and introduce yourself.
  2. Look around your office at those who are consistently reaching department goals or are being promoted to greater responsibilities.  Often times, these are great people to invite to lunch and inquire about their strategies for succeeding in the company.
  3. Hire a coach or professional mentor.  By investing in your success through reserving time with a coach or professional mentor, you can eliminate years of trial and error by using his or her knowledge and resources.  This is a secret formula for continued success for many top athletes and entertainers as well as entrepreneurs.

As you develop your plan for success, include a mentor to make the journey easier.

That’s Just a waste of time…

What would happen if we turned off Netflix, the tablet and our smartphone for two hours a day?  Okay, besides have electronics ‘separation anxiety’ what would be the real result?  TIME!!

Throughout the day, we spend a lot of time on activity that we don’t realize rob us of the ability to reach the success we want to obtain. Whether the goal is to have a better marriage, improved job skill, or to just get the bedroom closet organized, you have to reserve time to complete these tasks.

The average American spends FIVE hours just watching television daily.  I don’t know about you, but 10 minutes of viewing the Real Housewives of ANY city is 10 minutes of my life I would certainly want back.

What I’ve learned from many of my successful mentors is that success does not happen by accident.  All successful people have common habits when it comes to his or her use of time.

Here is a sneak peek at a few of those habits:

  1. Create your TO DO LIST before going to bed: high achievers plan out their day.  This helps to avoid spending too much time on activities that are not productive.
  2. Get Physical: good health generates energy to get through the sometimes stressful day.  Most successful people dedicate sometime in the morning to physical activity.
  3. Goal Setting and Visualization: If you can see it, then you can be it! Most successful people have very specific goals and action plans for reaching those goals.  By knowing exactly what you want and how you will do it,  makes it easy to visualize your end result.

Of course, there is nothing wrong about setting time aside to enjoy life, but we should view time as a precious commodity that we cannot retrieve once wasted.

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Yes, it’s okay to say NO!

We live in a fast paced world where many of us don’t stop until it’s time for bed.  However, why is it difficult to say ‘no’ when we understand that it will add more to do items on our already crazy agenda?  Do you feel guilt or even obligation to do something you don’t want or have the time to do?

Here are a few reasons to stop saying yes, when you mean NO!!

  • You can’t please everyone:  You heard the old expression. Even if you do say yes to someone else’s request it doesn’t guarantee their satisfaction.  It could backfire if you agree to a task and you can’t actually follow through with it.  This is very stressful on you and the person who expected your assistance.  This can be avoided completely by saying no up front.
  • You have the power : Only you know what your daily priorities are and only YOU can CONTROL how you prioritize your day.  If you let other’s requests dictate your day, it1412864081221_wps_14_Woman_reading_text_messag will lead to chaos! You’ll resent them for not being able to get anything done.
  • You don’t owe them one:  Sometimes you will be expected to ‘return a favor’ extended to you by someone else.  Here is how to look at it.  You don’t owe anyone anything!  If someone does a kind thing for you, it should be understood that the act was extended as a gracious gesture and not something to hold you under obligation for later.

You are the C.E.O of your life, manage it well.

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…but it’s kinda scary!

Developing courage can certainly be scary.  Most of us like to play it safe.  But by doing the opposite, how would your life change?  Would you be bold enough to ask for that promotion at work or even resign and start the business you’ve been tinkering with in your mind for years?  Maybe you will be courageous enough to ask that beautiful lady or handsome man you talk to every morning at the coffee shop for a date.

Here are a few ideas to build your courage:

  • Start Small, but START: just make the decision to make bolder choices and start doing it. This will boost your confidence and make it a lot easier.
  • Keep the attitude of expectancy: One of the best kept secrets of successful people is that they make a decisions with the expectation that the outcome will be positive.  Make a choice with the mindset that the outcome will be to your benefit!
  • Say YES more often: allow yourself the opportunity to do something new. By simply participating in an activity you’ve never done before can give you a huge dose of courage especially if it turns out to be something you’re good at doing!

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I did it! Here's me building courage by boarding a cruise ship although I previously was afraid of traveling over large bodies of water.

I did it! Here’s me a short time ago building courage by boarding a cruise ship although I previously was afraid of being near large bodies of water.

 

The Undeniable Power of Self Confidence

You’ve seen those people who seem to have it all together.  They always seem to get the ‘lucky breaks’ in life.  But there is much more to those happy, lucky and successful people.  What we don’t often see is the inner work they put into creating that life sometimes envied by others.

Here are some quick tips to building the self confidence you desire:

  • Start by setting YOUR OWN standards –  people who have rock solid confidence, hold rock solid values.  These values could relate to your personal standards, your business and spiritual values.  If you believe in them, don’t sway  from those values.  If you know what you believe in and don’t allow circumstances or individuals to lead you astray from them, you will be happy, stronger and confident.  This will show on the outside.
  • Examine the INSIDE you – You may have heard it before that you are what you think about.  If you think thoughts of boldness and success, you will gradually grow into those qualities.  Just as when you think thoughts of peace and good will, you will experience these things outwardly in life.
  • Be Kind To YOU – Many of us are our own ‘worst critic’ and this can effect our foundation of rock solid confidence.  Sometimes just engaging in positive ‘self talk’ can make a huge difference.  Tell yourself how proud you are of yourself for making that presentation or getting that new client or going to the gym when you didn’t feel like it.  Go ahead and get a new hairstyle or treat yourself to a nice dinner with your mate or a friend.

For more tips and discussions on this subject, contact me at kishia@legendarylifestyleacademy.com

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